Sex isn’t always easy. Like any other part of a healthy relationship, having good sex takes time and energy. He makes the best couple. At first you couldn’t control yourself. But over time, especially when life gets tough, this inspiring fire can die.

Signs that a couple is having sex can vary, but some are common: 

• Sex happens less often – or not at all. 
• Sex has become normal.
• Only one partner seems to initiate sex 
• and the partner often refuses. 

Sometimes, couples reach the point where they no longer see each other sexually. Some couples don’t touch each other very well – don’t hold hands or kiss for longer than a quick kiss.

Another sign? 

When partners no longer focus on their physical appearance. Oftentimes, desire and lust dominate the beginning of a relationship.

When people feel comfortable in their relationships and everything else in life comes into play, the desire sometimes ends if it is not fulfilled. There are ways to rekindle the fire, but first we need to “let go of the myth” that sex should be regular and easy, Needle said. Like any other part of a healthy relationship, having good sex takes time and energy. You have to make an effort.

Start by focusing on your connection with each other. Being able to communicate is important both inside and outside the classroom. Ask your partner the same question you would ask your best friend. Be open about your feelings, whether you’re talking about your day at work or what you want.

Once communication is restored, try these tips to increase power: 

1. Increase your dopamine – together.

One factor that causes butterflies when you first encounter them is the chemical alcohol in your body. Change that by doing something new. Check out a new restaurant, take a cooking class together – do something fun that you’ve been dying to try. 

2. Kiss often. 

At the beginning of a relationship, couples often enjoy kissing, but over time, they stop. “Continuous hugs, kisses, and cuddles are an important part of a healthy relationship.

3. Remember how it was when you first met. 

Turn off the TV and remember the fun times you had – even the sex, if any – when you first met.

4. List opportunities to have sex.

Go through the sex book together and get inspired by its suggestions. Make a list of at least ten. Don’t worry if you want to try them or not. Just list them. Then rate each topic on a scale of 1 to 5 based on your willingness to try it. Share your answers among yourselves. See if you can find something new to try together.

5. Keep the mystery alive.

No matter how long you’ve been together, make an effort to have sex and start having sex again. Add surprise to the relationship. Break this pattern that can be told one time at a time. This can help keep the desire alive. 

6. Get in touch with your own sexuality. 

Read an erotic novel or watch a sexy movie to please yourself. Think about when you were most sexually aroused. You may want to write a beautiful essay to share with your partner.

7. Find a sex coach.

Although many people are well aware that they need to make changes to their partner, they often want to talk to a professional about how to move forward, Levine said. Having a coach is a good way not only to get professional advice and support, but also to hold yourself accountable for upcoming changes.